We Didn't Invite Guests' Children to Our Wedding, But People RSVP'ed With Them Anyway. What Should We Do?


Some brides and grooms welcome flower girls, ring bearers, and any other guests' children (babies included) to their wedding. Others simply don't feel it's their cup of tea. How should a couple planning a child-free wedding inform a guest that their kiddos can't come to the wedding ceremony or reception? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your guest questions in our daily post.

How do you deal with people who RSVP that they'll be bringing their kids, when they weren't invited?

Whoever is closer to those people—you or your fiancé—should call and explain that unfortunately, you aren't able to include children. If you have a feeling that the kids will be dragged along anyway, make a seating plan that puts the couple at a corner table that can accommodate extra last-minute guests; if the whole family shows up, your mom or maid of honor should tell the maître d' (caterers generally have extra meals on hand, so that shouldn't be a big problem). The more prepared you are for all scenarios, the more relaxed you'll be.

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