My New Husband And I Are Deciding If We Should Hire Outside Help For Our Home. Any Advice?

Etiquette, Relationships

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Once you and your new husband set up your home and organize your wedding registry items, it's time to work out some not-so romantic details, such as managing hired help at home. Our etiquette experts are here to solve your married life quibbles in our daily post.

My husband is against having outside help in our home (e.g., a housecleaner, a yard service), but I'm all for it. How can I convince him it's OK to have a little help around?

If you do most of the housework, he might have no idea how much work cleaning and landscaping is. Have him take over your duties for a week, then bring up the subject again. Chances are, he'll fold like a beach chair. If you already split housework, now's a great time to test your negotiating skills, says Heather Lowenthal, a planner in Palm Beach, Florida. "Have an open discussion and give solid reasons why having help will benefit both of you," she says. "If he still won't budge, come up with a compromise, like having a housekeeper once a month or every other week."

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