How Do I Ask My Future In-Laws to Pay for the Rehearsal Dinner?

Etiquette, Showers & Parties
Rehearsal dinner payment

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Traditionally, the parents of the groom pay for a wedding's rehearsal dinner, from the drinks and cocktails to the dessert. If the future in-laws don't broach the subject or offer, how should a bride handle the situation? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your questions in our daily post.

How do we ask the in-laws to pay for the rehearsal dinner?

Asking for money is never easy. However, there are ways to finesse it without sounding like you're just trying to hit up your future in-laws for cash. One approach is to ask them if they are planning on hosting the rehearsal dinner. "Hosting" implies "paying for" without having to actually come out and say it. If they say yes, turn over the guest list to them and let the party rest safely in their hands. If your future in-laws aren't big party-throwers, they may still offer to foot the bill but leave the party planning up to you. Another way to approach the money issue is to ask your in-laws if they want to make a contribution to your wedding. If they throw a check your way, then you can decide whether or not you want to apply their cash gift to your rehearsal dinner.

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