One of My Bridesmaids Wants to Change for the Wedding Reception. Can I Ask Her to Stay in Her Bridesmaid Dress?

Bridesmaids, Etiquette
Bridesmaid dress change for wedding reception

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Picking out bridesmaid dresses involves time, money, and planning. And yet, some 'maids just can't wait to take them off! Is it appropriate to ask your bridesmaids to stay in their dresses during the wedding reception? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your bridesmaid questions in our daily post.

Can I ask my bridesmaid not to change out of her dress after the ceremony?

Sort of. You can explain why you want her to be visually ID'd as part of your girl tribe, and ask that she wear the dress until the reception's over. But unless she's just being picky, chances are she feels truly unattractive in the dress. Ask her if there's something specific about it that bothers her. Is it the shape? Does she think it reveals too much skin? If the dress hasn't been ordered yet, see if there's a more complimentary silhouette in the same color that suits her better (it's okay if your maids aren't exact matches). If she's already put down a deposit, a visit to a good tailor might make a big difference.

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