Some Fellow Bridesmaids Planned an Expensive Bridal Shower Without My Knowledge. Should I Pay Up?

Bridesmaids, Etiquette, Showers & Parties

If you are (or have ever been) a bridesmaid, you know what the job entails: Bridesmaid dress shopping, a bachelorette party, a bridal shower, and lots of love and support. What happens when other 'maids take control and the costs rise? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your questions in our daily post.

I'm a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding, along with three friends. These women planned a very expensive shower without asking for my opinion, then told me I needed to contribute a huge sum of money toward the shower. I don't think I should be expected to fund this shower, as I had no part in planning it. Should I pay up?

Since your friends kept you out of the loop, you technically don't have to put a penny towards the shower. But, that's going to cause enough angst and drama for two seasons of The Hills. So pitch in, buy your sister a small shower gift and take comfort in the fact that you were the better person.

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