Is It Appropriate to Help Pick Out My Engagement Ring?

Engagement Rings
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An engagement ring is more than a symbol of commitment—it's also a piece of jewelry you will wear every single day. Shouldn't you have some say so that it fits with your style? Our wedding experts are here to help you figure out how involved you should be in picking the ring in our daily post.

My boyfriend says he wants to propose to me soon—and he wants me to help pick out the engagement ring. Is this appropriate?

Definitely. In fact, 62 percent of couples now go ring shopping together. The question is, do you feel comfortable with being a part of the process? We're sensing from your question that you do not—and there's nothing wrong with that. Just tell your boyfriend that you don't want to do a joint shopping trip because you think it's more romantic to be surprised. But don't set the poor guy totally adrift. Help him the old-fashioned way: Show your mom, your sister, and/or your BFF some photos of rings you like, and ask them to give him some guidance. You're going to wear this rock until death do you part; try not to leave things completely to chance.

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