Can Our Wedding Guests Double as Servers?

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Photo: Tina Rupp

Trying to cut wedding costs by asking your closest clan to work at your celebration? Our etiquette experts say find another way to slash your budget. Your guests want to be drinking, eating and making toasts–we promise!

Is it okay if we ask our families to serve food and tend bar during the reception? We're trying to keep our costs down.

So, you'd like some of your guests (yes, family members are guests) to spend your wedding day carrying platters and pouring beer. Sound like fun? Exactly. It's fine to have relatives shoulder a few easy jobs (making a quick run for more ice; manning the guest book), but no matter how tiny your budget, you must set aside enough money to hire a few helpers. Cut back on the flowers, skip the favors, but treat your guests like guests.

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