How Do I Tell My Father I Don't Want My Boring Priest to Officiate My Wedding?

Ceremony & Vows, Etiquette
Choosing an officiant etiquette

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With so many ways to personalize your wedding ceremony, why not choose an officiant that fits your style, as well? But how can a bride diplomatically inform her family that she doesn't want their familiar priest to marry her and her husband? Our wedding experts are here to answer your etiquette questions in our daily post.

Our parish priest has always struck me as a bore, but my father wants him to officiate. What can I do?

It's important to tell your dad how you feel. Give him specific reasons why you find the priest less than heavenly. Granted, religion is a touchy subject, but if you stay calm and talk honestly with your father, you're likely to have an enlightening discussion. Are you open to having another priest from your church officiate? Tell your father that's what you'd like to do. If that's not the case, you must tread even more gently and fully explain why you and your fiancé have chosen to go in a different direction.

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