My Ring Bearer Is Kind of a Troublemaker. How Can I Make Sure He Behaves During the Ceremony?

Ceremony & Vows, Etiquette
How to get ring bearer to behave during wedding ceremony

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Flower girls and ring bearers are cute, but boy are they a gamble! How can you make sure they act as grown up as the rest of your wedding party during the ceremony? Our wedding experts are here to answer your etiquette questions in our daily post.

How can we ensure that the ring bearer behaves during the ceremony?

Practice. If you can, take the child to the ceremony location a week or two before the wedding (remember, it's a big day for him as well). You and your fiancé can do a mock ceremony, explaining what will happen and what he has to do—with kids, you don't want to spring any surprises at the last minute. Ask him to show you how well-behaved he can be as he demonstrates his walk down the aisle. Let him know that there will be lots of friends and family there who are looking forward to seeing him. Afterward, the three of you should go out to a celebratory lunch, where you give him a little gift. Tell him there'll be another gift coming his way if he behaves nicely on the wedding day. Some may call this bribery; we call it brilliant!

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