I Just Got Engaged! When Should We Ask People to Be Our Attendants?

Wedding Attendant Etiquette

Photo: Katy Gray Photography

Wedding planning can feel like a race to the finish line, and time is of the essence for certain aspects like dress fittings or booking your venue. But how early should you ask friends and family to be attendants? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your bridal party questions in our daily post.

When are you supposed to ask people to be attendants?

Ideally within a month or two of the engagement, but there are no set rules. You'll first need to figure out how large a bridal party you want, which is often determined by the size of your event. (If you're having only 40 guests, 10 attendants will look off-balance.) Whatever your approach, be sure to ask everyone around the same time, especially if would-be members of the party are in the same social circles.

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