One of My Close Friends RSVPed "No" to My Wedding. Can I Confront Her?

Wedding RSVP no etiquette

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Sending out your wedding invitations opens a veritable Pandora's box of etiquette issues. Late responses, no responses, and mailbox mixups abound, and when close family and friends mysteriously RSVP no, feelings can get in the way. Still, is it ever appropriate to confront these guests? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your RSVP questions in our daily post.

Can I ask my close friend why she RSVPed "No"?

Not if you phrase it diplomatically. But her reason might be embarrassing—perhaps she's having financial trouble and can't afford a gift. If you want to reach out to her, send a short e-mail (a phone call might make her feel put on the spot) saying you're bummed she'll miss your wedding but that when you’re back from the honeymoon you'd love to grab coffee and catch up. This will give her the chance to reveal her reason without being guilt-tripped by you.

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