Do We Have to Have a Groom's Cake at Our Wedding?

Cakes, Etiquette
The Godfather-themed groom's cake

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Groom's cakes are turning up at more and more weddings as couples get increasingly creative with their dessert offerings. But are they a requirement? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your groom's cake questions in our daily post.

Do we have to have a groom's cake? We weren't planning on it.

Absolutely not. The groom's cake (which is often a fun-flavored, hobby-themed ode to your new hubby) started as a Southern tradition, but in recent years it has spread nationwide. But just like almost every other tradition, it's entirely optional. If you and your family are having a tug-of-war about the cake, however (chocolate versus vanilla, carrot versus custard), the groom's cake can be a simple way to satisfy those alternate cravings without upsetting the wedding-cake cart.

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