Can I Bend My "No Kids" Wedding Rule for One Couple?

Exception to no kids at wedding etiquette

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Children at weddings, even flower girls and ring bearers, are something of a polarizing issue. Some couples want their youthful energy, while others feel that a formal nighttime ceremony is no place for kids. So what to do if just one couple's children are on the invite list? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to solve your wedding guest dilemmas in our daily post.

My fiancé and I decided not to invite kids to the wedding. His mother wants us to bend the rule for one couple. I don't think that's fair. What should I do?

You're right to feel that making exceptions and playing favorites, especially with family, is inviting disaster. You and your fiancé need to agree to stick to your rule, and he should be the one to explain your joint decision to his mother.

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