My Groom-to-Be And I Hate Dancing! Is the First Dance a Must?

First Dance Wedding Etiquette

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Your first dance at your wedding is more than a tradition, it's usually the go-ahead to "open" the dance floor to other couples once you're done. Yet some couples, for religious, space, or personal reasons, choose to forgo this custom. Is this a reception faux pas? Our wedding etiquette experts are here to answer your wedding reception questions in our daily post.

My groom and I hate to dance. Can we avoid the first dance altogether?

Plenty of wedding celebrations—usually for religious reasons or space limitations—do without dancing. But if you want a lively party, plan on a first dance before you sit out the rest. "Traditionally, no one takes a spin around the dance floor until the bride and groom have their first dance," says Laurie Davis, a wedding planner and owner of Five Star Weddings and Events in Laguna Niguel, California. "So have your master of ceremonies invite the wedding party and family to join you on the dance floor about 30 seconds into your first dance. This takes the focus off the couple but still gives the photographer time to get a few shots."

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