How Old Should a Flower Girl Be?

Etiquette, Kids
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Choosing and managing your wedding party—flower girl, ring bearer, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and more—can be a stressful and time-consuming part of planning your wedding. That's why our etiquette experts are here to answer your toughest questions.

How old should a flower girl be?

Generally, child attendants should be between the ages of four and seven. Children younger than four, unless extremely grown-up for their age, don't take direction (or deal with 150 strangers staring at them) very well. You stand a good chance of getting a shy flower girl who refuses to walk down the aisle or a ring bearer who ditches the pillow at the first pew. Kids older than seven feel a little too grown up to be taking on these roles; give them the more adult jobs of junior bridesmaids and groomsmen.

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