Our Wedding Reception Is Adults-Only: Can We Still Have a Flower Girl?

flower girl in white dress with pink and white flower wreath

Photo: Kate Headley

Choosing and managing your wedding party—flower girl, ring bearer, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and more—can be a stressful and time-consuming part of planning your wedding. That's why our etiquette experts are here to answer your toughest questions.

We're having an adults-only reception. Can I still have my friend's daughter be a flower girl?

There are at least two reasons why a lone child at an adult affair is not a good idea. First of all, guests who were asked not to bring their kids will likely feel annoyed to see a flower girl at a supposedly child-free reception. Second, your little flower girl may feel lonely and bored without any playmates to keep her company. If you like the idea of a flower girl, then we suggest you open up your wedding to include a small group of little ones—just kids from your immediate family or bridal-party members. You needn't let everyone bring children. If you are set on a kid-free wedding, however, you may want to drop the flower girl idea. Kids are unpredictable and if you don't feel relaxed having them around, even a single flower girl may add too much to your wedding day stress.

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