How Do I Uninvite Wedding Guests for Financial Reasons?

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We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to field your bridal dilemmas. Listen up, ladies. Her tips will help you keep your sanity—and your friendships—in tact.

When we originally planned our wedding, we wanted it to be much larger and sent out a lot of save-the-date magnets. Financially, our situation has changed, and we have to cut anyone who is not family or an extremely close friend. How do I tell those who are no longer invited? —Sheri G. of Prospect Park, N.J., via Facebook

Dear Sheri,

I expect your question hits home for a slew of couples. As with everything else in the world, honesty is the best way to handle your change of plans. Invite the smaller number of family and close friends to your wedding. Send those other magnet people a letter (handwritten is best, but if that's not possible, printed but individually addressed) saying exactly what you told me: Your financial situation has changed, and you have to sacrifice the large wedding reception you had wanted to host for a very small family ceremony. Perhaps you can invite everyone else to an informal reception after you return home from your honeymoon.

—Lisa Birnbach

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