How Far in Advance Should We Send Out the Save-the-Dates?

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We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to field your bridal dilemmas. Listen up, ladies. Her tips will help you keep your sanity—and your friendships—in tact.

How far in advance should we send out the save-the-dates and invites for our destination wedding? —LaToya S. of Petersburg, Va., via Facebook

Dear LaToya,

Word on the hostess circuit is that you send out save-the-dates eight months prior, and the invites eight weeks before your big day. Not only do some people have to apply for passports and save money, but there are those who will have to get time off from their jobs, arrange child care, and take care of other pesky chores so they can join you. Advance notice will give guests more flexibility when they're making travel arrangements, too.

—Lisa Birnbach

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