Is It Okay to Have a Maid and Matron of Honor?

Can I have a maid and matron of honor

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We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to field your bridal dilemmas. Listen up, ladies. Her tips will help you keep your sanity—and your friendships—in tact.

Is it okay to have a maid and matron of honor? Would they need to have different gowns from the bridesmaids and/or each other? —Breanna S. of Pelham, N.Y.

Dear Breanna,

I was a maid of honor for my college roommate, and her older, married sister was her matron of honor. I was extremely honored by her designation. We wore matching dresses, identical to the other bridesmaids', and that was—and is—perfectly fine. Your idea will make both ladies feel important—and they can share responsibility for planning your bachelorette party. Win-win!

—Lisa Birnbach

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