Photos: (clockwise from top left) Fairchild Archive, Edyta Szyszlo, WWD, Thomas Iannaccone
What do real brides have to say about the wedding planning experience? Well, it's not all happy tears at the bridal boutique and indulgent cake tastings. Guest blogger Linley Taber shares the ins and outs of finding bridesmaid dresses that can withstand a high-kick on the dance floor, and more.
In wedding planning, as in life, I am a consummate researcher. I've stalked Pinterest for images of the perfect invitation font. I've printed the sixty year weather history of the date we'e getting married. I store all of this "data" in perfectly organized binders and folders.
And yet when it comes to time to narrowing my options down and making a real decision... well, I get cold feet.
Take, for instance, my hairstyle for the Big Day. I had collected a gazillion images of updos (check out a few of them above!) that felt loose and romantic, yet still strong enough to stand up to the August heat—and my aggressive dance moves. But as I leafed through these looks in preparation for my recent hair trial, I found myself having a bit of a Goldilocks moment: That updo was too big, that one was too small. This one was too plain, too trendy, or too fussy.
I know, I know—it's just a hairstyle. And as someone who lives in a messy bun and can't operate a curling iron, I'm frankly surprised I care at all.
But here's what I keep thinking: unless I end up an Oscar nominee, my wedding will be the most photographed day of my life. And I really don't want to accidentally end up looking like Snooki.
My hairstylist (the wonderful Kim Burns) wholeheartedly understood the pressure to get it just right—even if I still wasn't exactly sure what that was. She had me point out exactly what I liked and disliked about each of the images I brought to show her. She listened intently. She took notes.
Photo: Courtesy of Linley Taber
Then Kim set to work sculpting my hair into a series of three different looks—each a variation on the low side bun. After a few hours of pinning and spraying, we decided a combination of two of the styles would be my best bet—though we didn't actually have time to try the exact 'do.
Did this freak me out a teensy bit? Why, yes, yes it did—at least until I sat down with my burgeoning to-do-list (tuxes and tables and tastings, oh my!) and was frankly more than a little relieved to have one less decision to make.