How Do I Invite Only Certain Coworkers to the Wedding?

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We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to field your bridal dilemmas. Listen up, ladies. Her tips will help you keep your sanity—and your friendships—in tact.

How do I go about inviting only certain coworkers to the wedding? I don't want to offend anyone. —Kara T. of Boone, N.C., via Facebook

Dear Kara,

This is tricky—especially if you plan on returning to your job after your honeymoon. If you work with 10 or fewer coworkers, you really ought to invite all of them. But if you work at a large company, get the message out that you have to keep the list small, and invite only those you actually spend time with outside of work. The other option is to invite no one from your office other than your boss and your assistant, who (if you have one) most likely licked envelopes or covered for you when you were at a dress fitting. Inevitably, someone who considers you a close work ally might be wounded by not being invited. But there's a silver lining: This may be an opportunity to establish some boundaries at the office. Worst-case scenario, you won't get invited to said colleague's boring holiday party—but did you really want to go anyway? I didn't think so.

—Lisa Birnbach

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