Do I Have to Pick a Maid of Honor?

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Photo: Lisa Lefkowitz

We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to field your bridal dilemmas. Listen up, ladies. Her tips will help you keep your sanity—and your friendships—in tact.

"I love my three bridesmaids—do I have to pick a maid of honor? How would I explain that without upsetting the other two? Would the lack of hierarchy mean that no one would feel obligated to plan my bachelorette party? I want them to work together and be able to save money." —Karen D. of Sacramento, Calif., via email.

Dear Karen,

What a good problem to have! No, you do not have to choose a favorite amongst your besties. I can't think of a single reason they would be upset; the contrary should be true. But lest you think I'm all Pollyanna, I blame reality TV for amping up the competition in relationships. No one will get voted off the island; no one will be sent home without a rose. Tell your BFFs exactly what you've told us and enjoy yourselves.

—Lisa Birnbach

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