Help! I Don't Want to Wear
My Mother-in-Law's Veil

Etiquette
Long lace wedding veil

Photo: Kate Headley

We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to field your bridal dilemmas. Listen up, ladies. Her tips will help you keep your sanity—and relationships—in tact.

"My future mother-in-law wants me to wear her veil. How do I say no without offending her?" —Rachel M. of Asheville, N.C., via Facebook

Dear Rachel,

You have a few options. One: Give in. Is it so awful? Can your hairdresser refashion the veil with combs, flowers, or bobby pins? Two: Offer to use the veil another way—as a shoulder wrap, maybe. If that doesn't fly, see if your own mother has her veil, which you'll just have to wear instead. Last: Tell the truth. If it's because she's divorced and you think the veil is bad luck, that's one thing. But if it's because you want to show her who's boss, this may not be the moment. I'd probably give in; if you don't like it, you can take it off for your photos.

—Lisa Birnbach

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