How to Handle an Unhappy Bridesmaid

Bridesmaids, Etiquette

Photo: Adrienne Gunde

We asked The Official Preppy Handbook's Lisa Birnbach to field your bridal dilemmas. Listen up, ladies. Her tips will help you keep your sanity—and friendships—in tact.

"One of my bridesmaids is constantly complaining about how much she hates the dress, while all the others like it. What should I do?" —Jennifer C. of Providence, via Facebook

Dear Jennifer,

Assuming you still like this carping, uncooperative friend, take her aside and ask what is really bothering her. Is it the dress? Is it the price? Is it her weight? Is it something about being single? If it's really the dress, perhaps there's a way to modify hers to make her a little happier and therefore a better sport. Your bridesmaids are a team—playing together (and drinking together) for the greater good. If that doesn't work, sic your mother on her.

—Lisa Birnbach

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