Three Things All Men Must Know
About Sex

Grooms, Relationships

Illustration by Maurice Vellekoop/BRIDES

News flash: when it comes to sex, men and woman are really, really different. Here, three things he must know to keep things blazing in the bedroom.

1. She needs to turn off. They say the brain is a sex organ, but for women, it can also be a sexual saboteur. Stress and crazy to-do lists can send your wife's mind into a tailspin, effectively cutting off arousal. Prep her for passion by helping her relax: Give her a glass of wine, book her a massage at the spa, or have her take a hot bath while you do the dishes.

2. She needs validation. It's no secret that women have body issues—in fact, many are so self-conscious about the way they look, they avoid sex entirely. To help get her mind in the game and off the size of her thighs, make sure to tell your wife what you dig about her body on a daily basis.

3. She needs patience. Your girl is going to need more time than you do to get there. In fact, according to Louann Brizendine's The Female Brain, it takes an average of 3 to 10 times longer for women to climax than for men. The moral of the story: Foreplay is not optional, fellas!

Once you've mastered that, here are 15 ways to keep your marriage sexy.

—Lucy Henry

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