First-Year Shockers

Brides Behind the Scenes, Relationships

Photo by Dan Saelinger/BRIDES

Women reveal what surprised them most during the first 12 months of marriage


"We argued a lot less than we did when dating. Before, I'd overanalyze all the little things and hold a grudge. We learned to deal with a problem and move on. We weren't going to divorce over the color of our new couch, so why argue that much?"—Helen F., 27

"I had more free time to see friends. Before, I'd have to split my time between him and my friends, but after, there was less pressure, since I knew I'd see him every night."—Jill P., 32

"We both got miserably sick with the flu at different times and took care of each other. That in-sickness-or-in-health idea felt really natural." —Michelle S., 41


"I wasn't prepared for all the football and basketball he watches on TV. I used to go to my apartment when he was watching a game, but after the wedding, there was no escape." —Erin R., 29

"I'm a spender, and my husband is a saver. It was hard, but I learned to cut back, and he learned that it's okay to treat yourself to some┬Čthing every once in a while." —Jennifer W., 28

"Before, he thought my messiness—the unmade bed, the pile of bills—was adorable; afterward, he found it annoying." —Annie G., 30

—Lauren A. Greene, BRIDES Magazine

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