Do you believe in 'No Ring, No Bring'?

Etiquette, Wedding Style & Decor

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This week in the forum, one member is asking for advice regarding guest list etiquette.

Member SilverLining1 says "I have a few questions about the etiquette concerning guests-of-guests. I understand that one rule to follow is the 'No Ring, No Bring' rule...but not everyone follows this...If one decides to follow the "social unit" rules, what is the cutoff? How does one decide who is in a "committed" enough relationship to bring their SO?"

PharmToxGirl offers some advice: "My attitude is either all can bring guests or you limit it with 'no ring, no bring'. 'No ring, no bring' means if the couple is engaged or married, they are invited as a unit. I also include same sex couples who may not have the option of marrying or legal commitment ceremony where they live."

Aunt says : "There's no real one good answer. I will tell you what I advise brides planning a wedding: 1. Make a budget and decide how many people you can afford to host. 2. Make a list of the really truly "must invite" people. Add spouses and fiancé(e)s to that list. 3. What is your total number? Lower than your budgeted number? Great, now you get to add optional people. 4. Make a list of the optional people (sort-of good friend, next door neighbor, Dad's business partner, etc) and add their spouses and fiancé(e)s to that list. Have you reached your budgeted number yet? If not, lather, rinse repeat. 5. Once you reach your budgeted number, stop adding "optionals".

Do you have any advice for SilverLining1? Do you think there should be a cut off for non-wed significant others?

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