What would you do if you didn't like your engagement ring?

Engagement Rings, Etiquette

Photo: Victor Schrager

This week in the forum, one member is asking for some advice regarding her engagement ring.

Member Buckeye2010 says: "I got engaged about a year ago. My fiance had a beautiful ring hand-made for me. I love the setting, the diamonds are exactly what I wanted. I get complimented on it all the time. The problem is ..... I wanted platinum, and he got me white gold. I only wear silver jewelry, I hate gold anything. I feel that this is something I'm going to wear for the rest of my life, and I should have exactly what I want. Am I being selfish and/or unreasonable? Should I tell him that I would like to have the ring reset in platinum?"

08divabride offers some advice: "The best thing to do without hurting your FH's feelings is get the ring dipped. If you have to get it dipped every 6 months to a year, that may be an option for you. Platinum can be very expensive and maybe it was not in the budget for him at the time."

MrsM2009 says: "There is no way to bring this up to your FH without insulting him, and there is no way to have the ring re-set without undergoing a huge expense. Platinum typically costs twice what white gold costs, so you're probably talking at least a couple thousand dollars to re-set. Your FH was very smart to buy only the ring he could afford, and you should appreciate that about him."

Do you have any advice for Buckeye2010? What would you do if you didn't like your engagement ring? Click here to continue the discussion in the forums or click here to browse all forum topics.

Pictured: Triple Penta ring of apricot gold with bezel-set oval diamond, about $5,100, Reinstein/Ross, and white-and-rose gold engagement ring with round white diamonds and pink diamonds, about $1,760 (center stone not included), Simon G.

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