If you tied the knot earlier this season, why not kick off your lifetime together with a sizzling, sexy summer? To make your first summer as a married couple one to remember, check out these tips from health and relationship expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz:
Remember, it is Not a Race: Just like your marriage, sexual intimacy isn't about reaching a goal, but enjoying every moment of the time together. Don't cut right to intercourse, but rather hold onto the urge and savor the feeling of anticipation. Before building up to the big stuff, try small gestures like cuddling, light tickling or even massage. Don't worry —you'll get there and trust that when you do, it will be that much better.
Keep the Lines Open: Now that you've said, "I Do," keep the dialogue going and tell each other what "I Will" and "I Wont." Don't just assume your partner is satisfied with sex, rather maintain an ongoing dialogue to..
know what each other wants and what you're open to trying. The next time you're in the mood, challenge each other to create a shared fantasy. Start off by saying, "Imagine if..", followed by something new like "we did it somewhere other than the bed." Then turn the tale over to your partner to build on. For instance, "Imagine if...it was in the living room!" You'll quickly have some fresh ideas to try out, and the anticipation will likely make your next encounter pretty intense.
Try a Body Boost: To fully enjoy your connection, you need to love your body as much as you love your partner's. It is amazing how self image affects a person's desire to be sexual, and studies show that a person's perception of their sex appeal is a major factor to predict sexual activity and satisfaction. So, to make the most of your physical connection, give yourself a body boost. Do something nice for yourself that makes you feel sexy and attractive, like wearing high heels or lingerie, enjoying a day at the spa or even dedicating more time to being physically fit.
Don't Be Afraid To Try New Things: Couples don't always automatically 'click' in the bedroom, and any unsatisfied desire likely just means you long to deepen the connection. There are a lot of ways to enhance the experience and give you that added kick in the bedroom. Don't be afraid to introduce something new, like role play, massage, or even intimacy enhancement products. which are usually available at local drugstores. For example, I like K-Y Brand Intense, a topical female arousal gel that enhances intimate satisfaction for women. Similar items sold at these stores that couples enjoy include warming lubricants or scented massage oils.