Having recently been a guest at a wedding, I can honestly say there were a couple of people I wanted to pull aside at the reception and ask, "What were you thinking?"
Outfit #1: an all-white silk pantsuit. Okay, here's an easy guideline to follow: If what you're thinking of wearing to someone else's wedding starts with the description "white," then march it back into your closet and pick something else. It's as simple as that. This color should be reserved for the bride.
Outfit #2: a short (and trust me, I mean short) sleeveless bubble dress with plunging back paired with sky-high, black dominatrix-like heels. Here's why this ensemble is a no-no: It's an extreme attention-getter. This woman turned every head in the house whenever she passed by. Again, that job should go to the bride. It's the bride's beautiful dress that's supposed to leave people talking, not one of her guests'.
So... as you scan through your closet deciding what to wear for the next wedding you'll be attending, think about your friend—the friend who invited you to share in her special day. Then consider whether your outfit might take the spotlight away from her. If your answer is even a "maybe," don't wear it. Save that "wow" getup for a girls' night out or your high school reunion. It's important to give your friend her moment to shine. Plus, it's good karma that will come back to you in spades on your big day. —Anita K. Henry, group managing editor, Modern Bride