Baby Love


Last week, I blogged about my cousin's wedding. Here's what I didn't tell you: About a week before the wedding, I got a call from my cousin's fiancee's older sister. She and her husband live in NYC with their 1-year-old daughter, and since we've known we were going to combine our two families, I've been babysitting for her for the past year. Every time I have babysat, the little girl has always been smiley and good-natured and when I tickle her tummy, it always elicits a laugh.

So she tells me that since she and her husband were both going to be in the family-only wedding party, they need someone to hand the baby to after they came up the aisle. And since the baby already knows and loves me, they would be honored if I would consider holding their daughter during the ceremony.

Both extremely flattered that they would trust me with this responsibility and a little taken aback by the request, I immediately said "yes," not giving a lot of thought to any possible consequences.

I knew things might not go as smoothly as I'd hoped when the baby's mom casually mentioned that the ceremony was smack dab in the middle of the baby's usual dinnertime and that she'd been acting cranky all day. I took my seat and watched the family of three walk up the aisle and awaited the baby pass-off. At first, things went fine. We made it through "...we are gathered here today" and when she got fussy, I placated her with Cheerios through one reading. But right as the couple were about to exchange vows, the baby — completely unprovoked — began screaming. I knew this was no cry that could be subsided by some cereal, or even a pacifier, so I scooped up my charge and gingerly ran (in stilettos no less!) down the grassy hill so as not to disturb the ceremony.

Long story short: the baby cried all through the wedding and into the cocktail hour before her mom could feed her and I was sad to have missed the entirety of my cousin's wedding. In retrospect, it would have been better to hand the baby off to a waiting babysitter who had no emotional tie to the ceremony or the people getting married, rather than the first cousin of the groom. Of course there are no hard feelings, as kids will be (unpredictable) kids, but has anyone else had to deal with this? How are you handling the subject of childcare at your wedding? Leave a comment below and let us know how you're tackling this tricky situation. —Abbe Wright, Assistant to the Editor-in-Chief, Modern Bride



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I have already hired a baby sitter for my wedding and recepetion. She and the kids will have their own "wedding party" in an adjacent room complete with face painters and a magician.

Posted 06/30/2009 2:09:53PM
by Amanda
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