Dreaming of a Do-Over


I was Modern Bride's associate editor when my husband and I tied the knot nearly 10 years ago—and it was an amazing wedding, thanks to a little help from my fellow editors, who shared their expertise (and a great find or ten).

But there's a downside to working at a bridal magazine after you've said "I do." The fabulous new ideas keep coming, day after day, and all those details you carefully chose for your own wedding start to pale in comparison to the new, more spectacular celebration you're plotting out in your head.

If I had it to do over again, I'd skip the big dress and go for something simple—my train became a pain after one of my bridesmaids broke the bustle during an exuberant conga line. I'd have a bouquet of peonies and freesia, which would smell as divine as they looked, in lieu of the pretty (but in retrospect, pretty bland) roses I carried down the aisle. And I'd probably opt for the at-home wedding I wasn't daring enough to try—I still dream of a billowing white tent in my parents' beautiful backyard. There would be sherbet-colored paper lanterns hung from the ceiling, and glass jars filled with peonies on the tables. And we'd serve sushi and lots and lots of champagne.

But the same bridesmaids would likely be standing by my side—perhaps with an addition or two so I know I chose my party wisely. We've only lost touch with a few of the friends who raised a glass at our wedding, so our celebration would grow with our new best friends mixing in with our old. And most importantly, the same man would be standing at the altar, beaming back at me as I walked down the aisle. After 10 years of weathering life's ups and downs together, I can't imagine spending the rest of my years with anyone else. —Lisa Milbrand, Interim Deputy Editor

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