Christopher Hopkins


While the bride is the star of her wedding day, her mother and the groom's, also take center stage. From playing hostess to posing in formal pictures to taking part in the wedding ceremony and dancing the night away at the reception, the mother of the bride and groom also need to look their best on this important day. We asked makeover artist Christopher Hopkins for his expert advice on how the mother of the bride and groom can look their best on their child's wedding day. Here's what he had to say: —Anne Chertoff

There are so many "celebrity" hairstyles that are popular right now. How does a mother of the bride/groom decide what's appropriate for her?

Well, what is "appropriate" is what is flattering to her face shape, her hair type and her personal style. Those three elements should be taken into account first, then a nod toward a favored celebrity look can be balanced into the mix. I see way too many hair do's for the mother of the bride/groom which look foreign on them. It's better to just take what your every day hair up a notch than go all hog wild with an exotic up do.

What should a woman of a certain age consider when thinking of the kind of look she wants for her child's wedding?

She should first know her body type, then balance that with the line, texture, color, proportion and accent of the outfit. Her look should also express...

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her ideal personal style. Is she more classic, romantic, alluring, casual, innovative or dramatic? With her body type and her personal style in mind she can then look for a flattering color.

What are the top three things to AVOID a wedding day hair or makeup disaster?

Avoid having someone who has never done your makeup and hair do it that day without a practice run.

Avoid waiting until the last minute with hair appointments. Book your cut and color a week before the event, then back track every 4 to 6 weeks so appointments are lined up correctly.

Avoid very dark or very bright lip color. A softer color will be more youthful and less invasive in photography.

What is usually the biggest fear or obstacle holding women over 40 back from making a style change for the better?

Exactly that. That it won't be a change for the better. Women fear a new cut and color will either make them look older or that it will not reflect who they are appropriately. That and that they won't be able to do it themselves.

What questions should mom ask about the wedding attire when trying to decide what she'll wear?

  • Does it flatter my body type?
  • Does it express my personal style?
  • Is it comfortable and can I move if dancing?
  • Do I have the right shapewear to go under this?

How does mom maintain her look after the big day? What tools should she have ready to do so?

I have the perfect tool called the "Beauty Revival Guide" with that goal in mind. Maintenance. The last time I was on Oprah she asked "How do you help women hold on to their new look once you've given it to them?" I didn't have a good answer at the time, but in response to that, I designed an entire system to help people attain and maintain their ideal look.

The crux of the workbook is to start with the end in mind. Have another goal date, about 2 to 3 months out, and set up a plan (working backwards with beauty appointments) and visualize and affirm how you're going to look for that event. It can be as simple as a dinner party or a fun family event, but something where you're going to get dressed and ready.

With an eye on the next goal and a plan of action you can maintain your look.

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