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Invites & Stationery

Jim Bastardo

You're either in or you are out. But it's not as cut and dry when it comes to making up your wedding guest list. And while we don't condone putting your friends and family through a reality-show-like competition to win invitations to your big day, writer Audrey Irvine suggests an alternative plan that just might work. She created a 10 question quiz that was recently featured on for couples to use to narrow down their guest list. Does your potential invitee know where you work? Where you used to work? Even your fiancé's name? Each question has a point value and the final score will determine whether you get an invite. "Now, you don't have to be as extreme as I would love to be and send these questions with the save the date card," explains Irvine. "However, imagine if, over the course of your engagement, you pitch these questions to a few prospective guests just to see how they do." —Cari Wolfert

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