One of my friends has a serious bridesmaid dilemma. Her cousin was thrilled to join the bridal party, but now she refuses to pay for her dress and constantly criticizes my friend's color scheme, menu selection and even her choice of venue. My friend is so fed up that she wants to ask her cousin to drop out of the wedding!
My friend's situation is hardly unique—readers have written in complaining about everything from bridesmaids who flirt with the groom to maids of honor who skip the bachelorette bash—but it raises a tricky question: under what circumstances can you ask a bridesmaid to leave the bridal party? My friend is torn about what to do. Should she try to smooth things over with her bridesmaid or should she ask her to gracefully bow out of the ceremony? —Kathryn Papanek